A Visit to the Nutritionist

I decide to get an appointment with an iridologist/nutritionist in Maine. I want to compliment my infertility treatments with holistic medicine so I can get to the root of my problem.

The nutritionist/iridologist is named Sarah M. and she comes highly recommended. She spends almost three hours with me. She starts by analyzing my body through iridology, which is taking an x-ray of my eye and looking at what it tells about my body. She asks me lots of questions. I tell her that I have no energy. Sometimes, by 1 o’clock in the afternoon, even if I’ve done nothing all morning, I am exhausted and just want to watch TV in bed.
She recommends a large number of vitamins and herbs. Since I can only afford to buy about five bottles, I ask her what are the top five supplements I need. She said not to worry: my father had called ahead and offered to pay for everything. That’s my Dad for you—always so generous and obviously very sorry that he hurt my feelings a few weeks ago. I was so surprised and relieved—now I could get all the vitamins and herbs I needed! It seems my liver, blood and colon all need cleansing. I went home with about 15 bottles. I didn’t even want to look at the bill since I felt so guilty that my Dad was paying. I know he spent a lot.


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Hard Time of Year

It is the week of Christmas and reminders that I have no children in my life are everywhere I turn.

I have no one to buy toys for, no one to bundle up and take sledding, no one to make hot chocolate for. Everywhere I look, there are commercials with beautiful little girls in pink and white dresses marveling at some wonderful new doll their mother has bought them.

Seeing it dangled before me constantly, I feel far removed from this normal and beautiful part of life.

I go in the Disney store at the mall and I run out almost immediately. When do I get a child to buy toys for? A child to tell whimsical fairy tales to? When does the magic I am seeing and hearing about all the time get to be mine to enjoy?

This feeling culminated when we visited my parents a few days ago for dinner.

I went there feeling depressed. It is December, and I am not pregnant yet. I am surrounded and constantly assaulted by visions of big families with lots of children gathering together. I see these images and ask: will I ever have this or will I always be so alone in this world?

When we got to my parent’s house, I was feeling sorry for myself. I couldn’t help feeling that this dinner shouldn’t be so small.

The feeling was so overwhelming that I made a decision that day: this will be the last December I ever experience without a child in my life. If I don’t get pregnant soon, I am going to adopt.

I was feeling pretty down, so I escaped to the upstairs bedroom. My
husband followed me and asked what was wrong. I started to cry. He held me, and I told him it hurts so much to not have a baby yet… to month after month not be pregnant.

Just then, my father knocks on the door and wants to know what is wrong. I tell him about how hard it is for me to have yet another December come and go without a child in my life. He looks at me, obviously a bit confused, and says, “Can’t we just have a nice day? We don’t want the day ruined.”

That was it for me. I was feeling very depressed to begin with, but this was too much. I storm downstairs, shouting a few choice words about his insensitivity, and lock myself in the downstairs bathroom.

I was not coming out until dinner was over and it was time to go home!

At that moment, I was already struggling to fight off my extreme disappointment and I had no stomach for my father’s inability to understand the validity of my pain. I felt safer in the bathroom than being with someone who didn’t fully get how beaten down a woman can feel when she is ready to welcome new members into her family, and those new members are not arriving as expected.

My mother and husband tried to get me to come out and enjoy dinner, but I just couldn’t. I felt ashamed…a total loser…angry..So, so angry. I just wanted to stay hidden.

Maybe this wasn’t the most mature response or the most considerate action to take, since my mother worked hard to prepare a lovely meal, but lately my emotions have been building towards a boiling point and once heated, I am unable turn them back.

I have little tolerance for all the people who take my feelings about being childless so lightly.

It seems everywhere I go, no one understands how painful infertility is–a raw, blistering, heated pain that never lets up.

I need at least my family to understand how bad this feels.

Today I desperately needed them to understand just how hard it is for another family dinner to arrive and still it is just my tiny little family with no children.

Why couldn’t my Dad see how hurt I am? How alone I feel? How horrible it is to experience life without a baby to love, when it seems every other family is overflowing with new babies, new children, a never ending supply of new life?

Where are the children who are suppose to be running around our family dinner table? When does new life get to come into our family?

On TV, I am barraged with images of big loving families with lots of adorable little children sitting at long beautifully set tables. I need that in my life.

I live in a dead zone with everything so stagnant and unchanging.

I need new babies at our family dinner table. I don’t want another family dinner with the same cast of characters.

Give me new life, give me babies.

I want my Dad and everyone else to know that I feel like the loneliest freak in the world because I am without children. I feel like life is passing by me. Somehow, along the way, I got on the wrong track and something I was suppose to have has been stolen away.

I hurt so much. It was impossible for me to come out of the bathroom and pretend everything is fine. Nothing is fine.

It felt a lot less painful to lock myself in the bathroom than experience another family dinner with no children.

Chris eats quickly, thanks my mother, and we leave.


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Foods That Could Hurt A Man’s Fertility

• Your partner should eliminate, or at least cut down, on alcohol, beer and wine while you are trying to get pregnant. Alcohol can lower sperm count, weaken sperm, and impede the secretion of testosterone. Studies have shown that alcohol can decrease sperm count for as much as three months after a big drinking fest.

• Encourage your partner to avoid sugar. Eating lots of sugar often results in hormone imbalances and robs the body of key nutrients.

• Cut down or avoid whenever possible white flour or gluten. If someone is sensitive to gluten, it can cause malabsorption of important nutrients, such as zinc, and increase inflammation throughout the body.

• Reduce or avoid foods with hydrogenated oil as much as possible.

• Reduce or avoid caffeine, which can reduce sperm count and motility. Caffeine is also detrimental to adrenal function, a gland key in productive hormones. The constant stress of caffeine can cause the body to focus on dealing with stress hormones, instead of reproductive hormones.
• Reduce or avoid animal products with a high fat content that contain hormones.

• No fried foods

• No hot sauce

• Avoid fried, charcoal-broiled or barbecued forms of cooking.

• Avoid soy. Soy is high in phyto estrogens, which can upset the hormonal balance in man. The estrogen-like compounds in soy can dramatically lower sperm counts. Texturized soy protein is in many meat substances used in fast food chains, and is also found in cereal, snack crackers and protein shakes.

• Avoid soda

• Stop drinking milk for now, since many dairy cows are fed estrogens to produce more milk. If you must drink milk, try to drink milk that is organic and not from estrogen-fed cows. Dairy that is not organic may contain hormones and antibiotics which can contribute to increased estrogen levels in the body. Keep dairy to a minimum.

• Avoid processed grains, GMO corn and corn products, and corn chips.


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Beans, Nuts and Seeds May Boost Egg Production and Quality

Beans are an essential food for developing good follicle quality. Black beans are considered by some to be a reproductive tonic. Lentils are also a healthy source of iron that support ovulation and aid fertility. Aduki beans are considered to support the Kidney Qi, which is essential for reproductive function.

Start including lots of nuts in your diet, such as walnuts, almonds, and brazil nuts. Nuts have high amounts of Omega 3 and Omega 6, which have been known to improve sperm quality and egg quality.

Nuts can enhance pancreas function, thus helping to regulate insulin and blood sugar levels in the body. Almonds contain L-arginine and zinc which are important nutrients to the reproductive system. Walnuts are high in protein and folic acid and are an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids. Almonds contain high levels of zinc and L-arginine, which are important nutrients to the reproductive system.

Seeds contain a lot of omega 3s which are key to fertility. Pumpkin seeds which contain zinc, an important nutrient in egg production. Sunflower seeds and sesame seeds provide healthy fats. Black sesame seeds can help enhance liver function and sesame seeds are rich in minerals.


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Avocados, Pomegranates and Pineapple Help Increase Fertility

Along with eating as many vegetables as possible, start including more fruits in your diet.

Fruits are packed with antioxidants, which protect the body from cell aging and damage—including cells in the reproductive system, like your eggs.

Start eating one or two bowls of blueberries for breakfast. Blueberries have phytonutrients that have hormone balancing properties that impact ovulation.

Many holistic practitioners recommend eating avocados to boost fertility, because they are a great source of Vitamin E, a huge fertility booster. Avocados help regulate both ovulation and production of cervical mucus. They are rich in folic acid and vitamin B6, which helps prevent luteal phase defect.

Bananas are full of potassium, Vitamin C and fiber, and bromelain which increases sex hormone production.

Slice up some papaya as your bedtime snack, have two or three bowls of strawberries, blackberries, raspberries and blueberries for breakfast, bring apples to work.

Eat fresh pineapple daily, including the pineapple core. Pineapple contains bromelain that aids in implantation. Pineapple is also one the best natural sources of manganese, an important mineral that triggers production of various reproductive hormones. Low levels of this mineral have been reported to be associated with difficulty conceiving. Note: if you are already taking aspirin, be aware that pineapple might thin your blood.

Pomegranates are considered a fertility super food.

Eat lots of fruits that contain Vitamin C, such as oranges, kiwi, blueberries and strawberries, a nutrient key to fertile health.

Fruits to include in your daily diet:

-Plums
-Blueberries
-Strawberries
-Bananas
-Grapes
-Cantaloupe
-Oranges
-Apples
-Mangoes
-Bananas
-Blueberries
-Lemons
-Pomegranate
-Figs
-Apricots
-Prunes
-Peaches
-Blackberries


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Homeopathy and How it Can Be used to Treat Recurrent Miscarriage and Irregular Ovulation

Homeopathy is a great way to release and unblock emotional traumas or negative patterns that may be affecting your fertility. Homeopathy works on the principle of ‘like cures like’ and brings the body into balance. Homeopathy uses substances found in nature to give the body the push it needs to begin healing itself.

Homeopathy can be used to treat recurrent miscarriage, irregular ovulation, weakened immune system, and other causes of infertility.

Homeopathy is tailored specifically to each individual’s needs according to their symptoms, lifestyle, mental and physical health. Questions like sleep habits, personality, and history will be asked. Treatments are comprised of small doses of what are known as homeopathic remedies.

I did homeopathy when trying to get pregnant for a second time, and within weeks, I could feel some painful emotions leave my body permanently. If trying homeopathy, be sure to select a practitioner experienced in working with infertility.

Common cures include Agnus Castus, also known as Vitex, Sepia 6c for irregular or absent ovulation, Sabin 6c for women who suffer from miscarriages, Phosphorus for treating stress related to infertility and Lycopodium for women who suffer from a dry vagina. The remedies come in tablets, liquid or pellets and are placed under the tongue so they dissolve and are easily absorbed into the system.


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Dancing your Way to Fertility

Dancing Your Way To Fertility will give you:

• The Ultimate Fertility Success Program, one of the best and most comprehensive body-mind makeover plans available to infertility patients today.

• 12 cleanses to maximize and restore your fertility.

• Information on all the foods, vitamins, herbs that can give you a fair and fighting chance to enjoy vibrant fertility.

• How to improve the quality of your eggs and balance your hormones.

• How to strengthen, prepare and emotionally heal every organ in your body impacting your fertility.

• How to cope with shots and injections.

• How to prepare for a successful IVF and what to do to increase your chances for success on the days before the IVF and after.

• How to discover and unblock all the emotional and spiritual traumas and painful life experiences that might be destroying your fertility.

• 50 art, writing, music and dance activities to increase your creative reproductive energy.

• The Ultimate Male Fertility Preparation Program

• Your Personal Fertility Food Tracker Diary.

•  Your Daily Happiness Journal: to help you gain access to your inner positive-feeling antenna that is ever alert to everything good within you and around you.

• How to deal with negative comments from family and friends.

• Ways to reduce stress in your life.

• More than 100 affirmations and visualizations.

• A personal fertility vision statement to help motivate and get you past the obstacles to your fertility.

• Ways to protect your baby once you are pregnant.

• Letters you can send yourself when you need a lift or a reminder of how strong and powerful you are.

• How to start enjoying a close loving friendship with your body.

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